It was recently pointed out that my long term girlfriend, Kelly, has become co-dependent on me. And I don’t mean that she is clingy and consequently only desires to spend a whole lot of time with me, I mean she seems to have to do every single thing with me personally or she won’t actually do anything. I mean that the lady goes out of her way to be able to “care for me” even if i actually don’t need that and it hurts her as well as complicates her life. She has an actual disorder, co-dependency is a true thing. I assume men and women who are co-dependent are typically everyday people who suffer from an unhealthy love regarding another man or woman then display that love in unhealthy ways. I usually just applied that as the joking term for clingy, little would I know i actually might undergo the real thing.
Her co-dependency had been at first pointed out to myself by some of my guy friends, such as my best friend Shane, however I blew these guys off. I thought their only fellas that are bored and jealous that i actually have a girlfriend who loves me as much as this lady does. Then her close friends pointed it out which I considered had been a little odd, these individuals were genuinely worried about her. But again, i actually shrugged it off. Then the actual woman’s mom and dad and my own mom and dad said to me personally that they sensed there was in fact something other than just excessive clinginess going on. That’s whenever I came to the realization that there a difficult problem.
We went to a counselor that is a professional in human relationships and marriage. It was there that some people revealed to us that Kelly was in deed co-dependent. She is in love with me to a strong unsafe extreme. She won’t go to the grocery store or perhaps even eat any kind of a real meal without me. She won’t see her close friends or family without me. She won’t function correctly without me. Furthermore, the lady leaves work in order to prepare me snacks or something and deliver them to my own work. And even if the lady could get in trouble for that and consequently is skating on thin ice at her work, she nevertheless does this merely because the lady thinks she has to take care of me.
This has to change if she is to become healthier and if we are actually too last, and currently the simple fact is, it is certainly not likely that we can last, which really sucks. The consultant wishes her to keep coming back again for therapy. Her father and mother want her to go to Co-dependency Anonymous. This throws me off. What is co-dependency anonymous? There can’t really be a co-dependency anonymous like there is actually the alcoholic’s anonymous. It’s certainly not that dreadful of a problem. And just what would that call for and also just how would it help? Seriously, precisely what is co-dependency anonymous?