How to support without enablingParticipate in family therapy. If you've ever found yourself in this situation and stopped to think about it, that's a good sign. You're examining your motives in context and reflecting on whether an impulse that seems good is actually the right thing to do in a particular situation. Most of us are conditioned to behave in a prosocial way, to be useful and good.
At an early age, we learn that our behaviors affect those around us for better or worse. However, it's common to exaggerate with what we learn about what it means to be kind, kind, helpful, or understanding. We may get used to helping too much, focusing too much on the well-being of others, solving problems too compulsively, or being good. As the popular saying goes, give a person a fish and they will eat for a day.
Teach them how to fish and they'll eat for a lifetime. Your 16-year-old son recently lost his driver's license due to reckless driving. They ask you to take them halfway across the state to attend a long-awaited soccer tournament. Instead of rescuing them, let them know that if they want to go to the game, they'll have to find their own vehicle there (and fix it with you).
First, understand that you have two objectives.